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February 21st, 2011 at 11:14 am
Okay, I’ll share a big secret.. and I’m not associated with this organization financially – just a fan. What you said in #9 was, for me, the biggest hurdle in my life. Learning to become authentic took a long time and the Hoffman Institute process was the catalyst. As a man, every relationship I had up to age 37 (including one marriage) was predicated on the idea of keeping her happy. It was only after I stopped thinking “what would a woman like?” and started thinking about what I wanted did I start to act with the kind of confidence that, well, let’s just say I’ve got a lot of great stories, and now have found an amazing woman and we’re expecting in August. :)
So my advice to men who genuinely care about women is to just put that on the back-burner and do things for yourself and for the people you serve. For women, if he breaks dates because he’s busy, try not to read too much into it. Maybe he’s trying to be successful to impress you.
Look at it this way: most intelligent men or women can lie effectively to get what they want and you’ll never know, so it’s really about you: do you want to spend your time in gut-wrenching turmoil over “suspicions” or do you want to trust? It’s a verb not a noun. Think about it. Then live authentically and help others to do the same.
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February 21st, 2011 at 3:22 pm
That’s wonderful news. Congratulations!
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Eight Don’ts of Dating
eHarmony Falls Flat
Dreams About the Person You Love
DOs and DON'Ts for Facebook Romance
Eight Tips for Living Together to Keep You Staying Together
The Elevated Perspective on Dating: Tips for Tall Women
How to Know You Are Not His Girlfriend
February 21st, 2011 at 11:14 am
Okay, I’ll share a big secret.. and I’m not associated with this organization financially – just a fan. What you said in #9 was, for me, the biggest hurdle in my life. Learning to become authentic took a long time and the Hoffman Institute process was the catalyst. As a man, every relationship I had up to age 37 (including one marriage) was predicated on the idea of keeping her happy. It was only after I stopped thinking “what would a woman like?” and started thinking about what I wanted did I start to act with the kind of confidence that, well, let’s just say I’ve got a lot of great stories, and now have found an amazing woman and we’re expecting in August. :)
So my advice to men who genuinely care about women is to just put that on the back-burner and do things for yourself and for the people you serve. For women, if he breaks dates because he’s busy, try not to read too much into it. Maybe he’s trying to be successful to impress you.
Look at it this way: most intelligent men or women can lie effectively to get what they want and you’ll never know, so it’s really about you: do you want to spend your time in gut-wrenching turmoil over “suspicions” or do you want to trust? It’s a verb not a noun. Think about it. Then live authentically and help others to do the same.
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andthatswhyyouresingle Says:
February 21st, 2011 at 3:22 pm
That’s wonderful news. Congratulations!
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