“Just Be Yourself”
“Circumcised or Intact?!” Screw Her Preference!
Women: Career or Romance, Choose Your God
Dealing with a Breakup: 10 Tips for Men
29 Reasons Nightclubs Suck
Ladder Theory: Revised and Revisited
‘Understanding Women:’ A Book I’d Like to Destroy
Why Women Ruin Their Husband’s Friendships
Canada’s Marriage Fraud Crackdown
Mrs. Control Freak and Mr. Spineless Eat Out
Trunk’s Hypocritical, “Immature and Selfish” Take on Divorce
Jail for Facebook Rant about “Evil” Ex-Wife
Cheating Military Wife Wants it All
Alpha Redux?
What I am trying to get across to you is that sometimes we don’t know ourselves as well as we think, nor do we necessarily know the people closest to us as well as we think. I can tell you with absolute certainty that this was true of me, as well as most people I know. If it were possible to fully get to know someone simply by “asking them” then so many of the issues we discuss here in the manosphere would not be the problems that they are.
We theorize here about the motivations of women, and female commenters often ask – “if you want to know about women, why don’t you just ASK women?” And the answer is because women often won’t tell the truth. They often don’t KNOW their own motivations. They will say they want a man with certain qualities, while displaying behavior that demonstrates that their desires are actually quite different. They have limited insight into their own desires/behavior. That doesn’t mean that it is useless to talk to them (quite the contrary), but that it isn’t always sufficient. Just because someone says something, and just because they believe it to be true – doesn’t necessarily make it true (even if they are talking about themselves).
If simply asking someone about their behavior/motivations was always sufficient, divorces would never happen. A divorce usually happens because an individual discovers that they didn’t know themselves or their partner as well as they thought they did – often both. And, IMHO and based on my observations, the errors that people tend to make are systematic rather than random.
How often have we heard about women divorcing their husbands, in spite of their husbands being good men, good fathers, and everything the women wanted at age 29? But now she feels that something is “missing” and wants to go searching for herself. Have we heard this often enough to realize that it is a common theme among certain types of women (and not others)?
“Circumcised or Intact?!” Screw Her Preference!
Women: Career or Romance, Choose Your God
Dealing with a Breakup: 10 Tips for Men
29 Reasons Nightclubs Suck
Ladder Theory: Revised and Revisited
‘Understanding Women:’ A Book I’d Like to Destroy
Why Women Ruin Their Husband’s Friendships
Canada’s Marriage Fraud Crackdown
Mrs. Control Freak and Mr. Spineless Eat Out
Trunk’s Hypocritical, “Immature and Selfish” Take on Divorce
Jail for Facebook Rant about “Evil” Ex-Wife
Cheating Military Wife Wants it All
Alpha Redux?
What I am trying to get across to you is that sometimes we don’t know ourselves as well as we think, nor do we necessarily know the people closest to us as well as we think. I can tell you with absolute certainty that this was true of me, as well as most people I know. If it were possible to fully get to know someone simply by “asking them” then so many of the issues we discuss here in the manosphere would not be the problems that they are.
We theorize here about the motivations of women, and female commenters often ask – “if you want to know about women, why don’t you just ASK women?” And the answer is because women often won’t tell the truth. They often don’t KNOW their own motivations. They will say they want a man with certain qualities, while displaying behavior that demonstrates that their desires are actually quite different. They have limited insight into their own desires/behavior. That doesn’t mean that it is useless to talk to them (quite the contrary), but that it isn’t always sufficient. Just because someone says something, and just because they believe it to be true – doesn’t necessarily make it true (even if they are talking about themselves).
If simply asking someone about their behavior/motivations was always sufficient, divorces would never happen. A divorce usually happens because an individual discovers that they didn’t know themselves or their partner as well as they thought they did – often both. And, IMHO and based on my observations, the errors that people tend to make are systematic rather than random.
How often have we heard about women divorcing their husbands, in spite of their husbands being good men, good fathers, and everything the women wanted at age 29? But now she feels that something is “missing” and wants to go searching for herself. Have we heard this often enough to realize that it is a common theme among certain types of women (and not others)?