PA — I may not be getting the point across here. I’m not thinking about about anything as practical or self-interested as closes or failure rates. I’m talking about the pain that I (used to) feel whenever I get the “F.-off” look: not because rejection was unpleasant or disappointing per se, but because I’m a good boy and I didn’t like the feeling that I had hurt someone else, done something so unwelcome as to make them flinch in pain. Even with simple or fun/teasing openings, this is the simple truth of the world: if you’re only average-looking then most pretty girls would really rather you didn’t, and are pained if you do.

Referring to your airplane story, how did you feel when girl two gave you the “F.-off” look? Were you embarrassed? Guilty? Regretful? taking blame on yourself. Or, did you write her off as just a tasteless bitch? putting blame back on her? Or was it just one of those things, no harm no foul, no reason to consider blame in either direction?


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